Deep Change - Transformation Mindset and Management Change

 

Over one weekend, all the eleven directors (one of us just promoted to be Deputy Director General) of JPAN went away for a course and it is called "Deep Change" which focus on personal mindset transformation and how we handle ourselves in this ever-changing world. The wisest mind has something yet to learn - George Santayana. Indeed, many may have thought at the end of our career, there is nothing new to learn under the sun, but, the mind is willing to learn. 

The following are the key lessons that we have learnt from this 2 days, it covers the philosophy underlying the course and the key points of take-away:-

1) You cannot cross the same river twice. River flows is a constant change.  At every moment, it cannot be the same water in the river.

2) Are you the same you after you came back across the other side of river ? We can never be exactly the same at each passing moment. We also change with new experiences and new information. 

3) All of our decisions in the past are made accurately by us at that moment with those information we had. So, there is really no place for regrets. 

4) Emotional Baggages are the ones causing us lots of pains and regrets, the key is to learn to forgive ourselves first and to stop allowing the past negative experiences to impact us, to forbid a past debtor to stay in our life rent-free to torment us emotionally. 

5) Knowing about knowledge and growing in wisdom are two separate matters. The difference between knowing and being is in how we assimilate the knowledge through knowledge as we practise them in our life and learning from these experiences. 

6) Our inner self loves to judge others, it is something that we instinctively would do : passing judgement on others as information presented to us. This we must stop doing.  

7) Dreams and visions keep us alive and striving for living ! We must have our own strong desire to be achieve something in our life, our have dreams and visions keep us happy to be awaked every morning, driving us to learn, relearn and wanting to do more in life. The moment we take a break from having any dream or vision, our body will just go downhill. As the mind thinks, so is the body. 

8) Our Internal Operating System (IOS) was formed around 6 - 7 years old, when we entered into the mainstream education system which shaped our thinking and mindset. Imagine after 20, 30, 40 or even 50 years, if we do not change, we cannot keep up with the changes in the world especially in digitalisation. 

9) Once our IOS which is our Mindset has been upgraded, we can then ensure that we can build healthy relationships with all those around us and establish good communications and rapport with them so that the team is able to strategise and come up with blueprints and Programmes to achieve our KPI and goals. 

10) We have to learn to transform our own mindset before we can lead others. This is the cornerstone of transformation and the foundation. Without this IOS upgrading, the roles and tasks of leaders are difficult to fulfill. 

11) From our earlier on IOS, we have turned into certain type of parents or adults or some remained as a child, there are six types of maturity that we have developed into :-

1. Critical Parent
2. Nurturing Parent
3. Adult
4. Natural Child
5. Adapted Child
6. Little Professor

In our group, most of us are Nurturing Parent, Adult and Adapted Child. However, Nurturing Parent often has boundary issues where they allow others to step into their boundary and sacrifice and give so much constantly until there is a hole in the generous heart. NP often are big hearted people with a big hole in the heart due to lack of setting up boundary and also lack of self-care. 

Here are the 11 of us with our trainer, Mr Richard and organiser, Ms Molly. 

Richard, me and Celestina

Richard is excellent story teller! 

Captain Andy was always naughty and quick in his comments.

The following poster (believe it or not) appeared on my Facebook as suggestions to me, on the last day of the course which was 22 May 22 (Sunday), what a coincident right ? I am not sure if Google and Whatsapp has been listening and sensing all our conversations inside the Whatsapp messages and sent these to me. For this, I am happy as they do sum up some of the key lessons we have learnt over the weekend.